For half the population, Valentine’s Day means showing love by contributing to the $20 billion business of chocolates and cards. For the other half, it might mean staying in, thinking about solitude, and likely reliving past mistakes. Regardless of how you’re feeling, you’ll likely be listening to a number of love songs for Valentine’s Day.
Valentine’s Day can be rough for a number of different reasons. Maybe you’re serially single or have had a run of bad relationships. It’s possible that you’ve found love in the past but that your partner has passed. Regardless of where you are and where you’ve been when it comes to romance, music can help.
The Different Kinds of Love Songs
Humans are hard-wired to express emotions through the use of music. Over the course of millenia, music was shaped and honed to tap directly into our emotions and emotional responses. It is a direct reflection of many of the themes, feelings, and emotions that shape our lives every day.
Throughout musical history, love has always been the most promising subject matter for songs. When Early Man started beating on a drum, he might have been trying to find a mate for the winter. Modern Man is no different, picking up his guitar and writing a love song when passion strikes.
Through the years, the subject of love has been a dominant force in the music we write and listen to. Some songs are about the wonder of love, while other songs are about the heartbreak and hurt that can happen. However, all songs are a product of experience, and speak to the soul about the depth of emotion.
Within the love song canon are several distinct takes on love and relationships. Some make us feel warm and fuzzy while some turn our hearts to ice. Music reflects the spectrum of human emotion, and there are countless degrees between love and heartbreak.
Mood Music: Setting the Right Tone for Valentine’s
Those who understand the power of music know that love songs can evoke memories of our own romantic experiences. Often these memories can stay at the forefront of our thoughts, sometimes to the point of fixation. For those who bear scars from past romances, this can be a burden more than a blessing.
If you’re in a healthy relationship, it’s unlikely that you’ll be listening to dark songs about lost love. For those spending Valentine’s Day alone, it can be all too easy to slip into the mindset of a victim. This is especially true if you’ve struggled with toxic relationships in the past and can’t shake the sadness.
If you’re looking for a pick-me-up on the 14th, new music might be just what you need. Take this as a chance to revamp your romantic repertoire and listen to more uplifting and playful love tunes. Why spend time reliving past loves when you can listen to new music and look forward to new love?
Music has the unique ability to reflect what’s going on in your head and heart. Is your playlist making you think of lost love or hopeful that romance is just around the corner? Regardless of where you might be with romantic relationships, it’s never a bad time to look forward to the future.
Listening to Love Songs for Valentine’s Day While in Recovery
Anyone in recovery for alcohol or drug addiction understands the profound role that love and relationships can play in the process. From toxic relationships to struggling with codependency, love and romance can play huge roles in the development of substance abuse.
Many people in recovery have had a relationship in their past that either caused or enabled their addiction. Others might have lost their partner to substance abuse and fallen victim to the same addiction while trying to cope. For some people, losing someone they love can catapult them into the throes of addiction, and Valentine’s can rekindle memories.
It’s unfortunately common for people’s romantic or marital troubles have contributed to the severity of their substance use disorder. If this is the same in your case, steer clear of your usual love songs on Valentine’s Day. By sparing yourself the pain of reliving the past, you can sidestep any triggers that could compromise you.
Recovery Unplugged is here to provide support during what could be a dark and lonely time of year for some. We want to know what’s on your Valentine’s Day playlist this year.
Are you beaming with love or brooding with bitterness about Valentine’s Day? Drop us a line and let us know.