Can You Help an Addict Who Doesn’t Want Help?
While it can be extremely difficult, it is possible to help an addict overcome drug or alcohol addiction even when it seems like they don’t want help. When you’re trying to help your friend or family member get treatment for substance use disorder, it’s important to remember that alcohol and other drugs hijack the brain’s chemistry, which can alter behavior and make it seem like users don’t want help. It leaves them dependent and vulnerable to serious physical and psychological withdrawal symptoms that discourage them from stopping. They think they can “control” their use enough to keep their lives together.
Eventually, however, they see that addiction makes life unmanageable, and they need their friends or loved ones to help them pick up the pieces and enter recovery. If your loved one is battling addiction, here are some things you can do to help them, even when it doesn’t seem like they want it:
Set boundaries, create accountability, and be firm, but remain a consistent presence in your loved one’s life. If they feel like you’ve abandoned them, they’re less likely to trust you when they are inclined to seek help.
Pick Your Moments
Don’t try to reason with them when they’re high or their judgment is impaired. Some people think that the best time to talk to someone about their substance use is when they’re hungover or going through withdrawal. Wait until they’re lucid to talk to them logically about getting treatment and entering recovery.
Give Them Hope
Let them know there is no need to be afraid of recovery. Remind them that they’re not “giving up” anything; but rather gaining more than they could possibly realize. Remind them that withdrawal is temporary and that the rewards of getting and staying clean will change their lives for the better.
Tell Them the Truth
Make a specific list of everything their addiction has cost them, whether it’s their job, their friends, their family, their savings, their health, or anything else. Also, remind them that, without help, they’re much more likely to overdose and very possibly die from their substance use.
Be Their Research Partner
Help them identify treatment options, look for rehab centers and navigate the logistics of entering recovery. Work with them to verify their insurance resources and what type of treatment they should pursue. If necessary, you may want to communicate with their treatment facility on their behalf prior to the admissions process.
Let Them Know Treatment Is Actually Possible
Many people want treatment but don’t think they can afford it or manage it with their work-life schedule. Let your addicted loved one know that there many ways to pay for treatment other than out of pocket and that there are multiple types of rehab that allow them to get help while balancing their care needs and lifestyle.
Let Recovery Unplugged Help You Help Your Addicted Loved One
You shouldn’t have to do this on your own. If your loved one refuses to see that their addiction is hurting them and the people they care about, contact Recovery Unplugged today so we can coordinate an intervention from one of our experienced and qualified professionals. Recovery Unplugged is in-network with most major insurance companies and offers all care levels.